Warning Signs to Look Out for on a Date
It is rare that deviant behaviour comes out of nowhere. When a good person seems to suddenly turn bad 95% of the time there have been warning signs that we have chosen to ignore. By trusting your instinct and looking out for the signs, you can prevent the bad happening.
Asking too Many QuestionsObviously when you are out on a date you want to find out all you can about the other person. However when the questions seem to be getting too personal or asking for detailed information then you are right to feel wary. People who are planning to take advantage of you will try to gather as much information from you as possible. Often they are very skilled in doing this subtly and without drawing too much suspicion so if something doesn’t feel right then step back and think about the situation. If you don’t think they need to know something or don’t feel comfortable disclosing it then don’t.
Suggesting SeclusionIt may seem romantic, fun or intimate to go somewhere more secluded with your date but unless you know them well it is never a good idea. If your date has ulterior motives they are likely to try their best to persuade you it is a good idea. They may say the current venue is too loud or smoky or that they want to get to know you better. They may also try to cast aside your doubts by saying you are being silly or untrustworthy or attempt to make you feel more at ease by telling you a variety of reasons why it will be safe. All these methods are a way to get you somewhere more secluded by making you second guess yourself. Stick to your guns and if they are genuine they will let it go.
Rude or Violent BehaviourPeople who exhibit rude or violent behaviour to others are showing a dangerous side to their character that could eventually extend to you. If your date is unduly rude to a waiter or anyone else then take note. If another man insults you or tries to chat you up and your date jumps violently to your defence, his overreaction should not be take as flattery but a warning sign.
Ranting About ExesSure, everybody has grudges and we all hold some kind of antagonism about an ex. However, if you date talks extensively about an ex in a threatening manner then this is not a good sign. Remember, that one day you might do something to upset them and that same anger could then be directed against you.
Excess DrinkingEverybody gets nervous when they are on a date and it is natural to have a few drinks to calm you down. However if your date seems to be getting through drinks very quickly or ordering a lot of shots or strong alcohol then be a bit wary. Heavy drinking can lead to violent and aggressive behaviour
Your ReactionsThe best reaction you have against danger is your own gut feeling. Your instinct often reacts to warning signs that your conscious mind may not have processed. Never discount that funny feeling in your stomach or doubt that you just can’t put your finger on.
Similarly if you feel yourself feeling unusually drunk in relation to the amount of alcohol you have consumed then pay attention to it. This is the reaction that most people who have been drugged report and telling someone immediately could prevent you being date raped.
However much you may like your date and want things to go well, never ignore the warning signs. Pay attention to your gut feeling and if something doesn’t feel right, the chances are it isn’t.