Same Rules Apply
It doesn’t matter who you are dating and what sex they are, you need to follow the same rules for safe dating as straight couples should. Whether you are speed dating, internet dating or meeting someone the traditional way through a bar or friends you need to keep yourself safe. Always meet someone for the first time in a public place and make sure a friend knows where you are going. If you decide that you are going to go back to theirs then be sure about how you are going to get home and never give out too much personal information.
Take a Friend
There is safety in numbers and whenever you head out on the pull you should take a friend with you. If you don’t have any gay friends than drag a straight one along for company but don’t put yourself in the vulnerable position of going out alone.
If you do get lucky then tell your friend where you are going and when you will be home. This is a sensible safety net in the unfortunate case of anything going wrong.
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Don’t Rush In
In the heat of the moment and with a little alcohol to boost your confidence, going back to your date’s place can seem like a good idea. However, the longer you can take to get to know someone, the safer you will be. Try and wait a few dates until you have a better idea of what the person is like. During this time, hold off giving out too many personal details as well. Exchange mobile numbers but be wary about giving out your home or work addresses.
Safe Sex
You may not have the threat of pregnancy hanging over your head but it is still very important to practice safe sex. Sexually transmitted diseases are very easy to catch and not much fun to try and get rid off. If you partner refuses to use protection then it is wise to refuse to sleep with them as you need to concentrate on protecting yourself. Also, it is fun and healthy to experiment but never feel the need to go along with something that you don’t feel comfortable with. Respect your boundaries and expect others to do the same. Meeting and dating new people is fun but you also need to think about staying safe. Using your common sense, retaining a few boundaries and not rushing into any situation will help you protect yourself. Take time to get to know a new partner and wait a while before letting them into your life.
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